Dual Pleasure: A Complete Guide to Using Lali With Your Partner

Last Friday, I went to a stand up comedy by a popular Indian comedian. Among personal and political jokes, arose the topic of sex; how sex is talked about in hushed tones in Indian society. From buying condoms to asking for consent, even the most basic aspects of sex are marred by shyness and the many hilarious situations that arise from it. In a venue filled with young people, it drew ample cheers and applause. Comedy aside, I don’t know how many of us would actually strike a conversation about sexual pleasure or intimacy even among partners. 

When sex jokes are just for laughs, why can’t we bring the same openness and lightheartedness to conversations around sexual pleasure?

The first step to introducing Lali into your relationship is an open conversation. Let’s talk about our desires, fantasies, and how the company of Lali can really deepen intimacy. When you want to introduce Lali to your partner, approach the conversation with curiosity and excitement rather than with pressure. Discuss boundaries, preferences, and comfort levels to ensure it’s a positive experience for both. Share articles, like this one, to normalize the idea of incorporating pleasure products into your relationship. 

“Intimacy is about where you can take me, not what you can do to me.”
~ Esther Perel

Esther Perel is a Belgian-American psychotherapist, known for her work on human relationships. Perel promotes the concept of “erotic intelligence” and how it can unlock rewarding experiences for couples. Esther says “when we embody our Erotic self, we tune into the worlds around us and within us. We listen a little closer. We touch a little softer. We savor and linger.” 

Let’s guide you through a step by step journey of tapping into your erotic intelligence and using Lali with your partner!

The Environment
Creating the right environment sets the tone for intimacy. Dim the lights to create a cozy, sensual atmosphere, and light candles to add a warm, flickering glow. Aromatherapy candles with soothing or aphrodisiac scents like vanilla, sandalwood, or jasmine can enhance the mood. Play soft, ambient music or a playlist that resonates with both of you to relax and attune your energies. This helps shift the focus from performance to connection and exploration.

Explore Together
Using Lali is a great way to encourage your erotic imagination and explore sexual fantasies with your partner. Lali’s versatile design makes it a seamless addition to partnered play, encouraging you to step outside your routine and tap into your shared fantasies. Take turns experimenting with how Lali feels on different parts of the body or use it to act out scenarios that excite you both. This shared exploration deepens intimacy and builds trust, creating a safe space for erotic discovery.

Warm-Up Together
Foreplay is the bridge to deeper intimacy, and Lali can make it even more exciting. Start by exploring each other’s erogenous zones with Lali’s smooth, vibrating touch. Glide it gently over areas like the neck, collarbone, inner arms, or thighs to tease and build anticipation. Take it slow and let the pleasure unfold. 

Sensual Massage
Turn up the intimacy with a sensual massage using Lali’s soothing vibrations. Apply a small amount of massage oil or a body-safe lubricant to the skin to reduce friction, then let Lali’s vibrations work their magic on areas like the shoulders, back, and legs. This not only helps ease physical tension but also nurtures a deeper sense of closeness and relaxation. Alternate giving and receiving massages, allowing each of you to feel pampered and desired in equal measure.

Double the Pleasure
Lali isn’t just for external stimulation; it can add a thrilling new dimension to intercourse. Whether used to enhance clitoral stimulation or placed on other erogenous zones, Lali brings an extra layer of pleasure to the experience. Experiment with positions to find what feels best for both of you. Remember, communication is key—talk about what feels good and adjust as needed to maximize mutual satisfaction.

Stay in the Moment
In moments of intimacy, it’s natural to wonder if you’re “doing it right,” but perfection is not the goal. Focus on the shared journey of pleasure and connection instead. Pay attention to your partner’s nonverbal cues—how they breathe, moan, or move—and use these to guide your actions. Let Lali become a tool for tuning into each other’s needs and desires. When you stay present and responsive, every touch becomes an opportunity to connect on a profound level.

Experiment with Settings
Lali offers a range of vibration patterns and intensities, giving you endless options to explore. Start with gentler settings and gradually increase the intensity to build excitement. For a playful twist, let your partner take control of the settings. Think of this as a creative way to keep things fresh and engaging in your intimate routine.

Celebrate Connection
Using Lali together is about more than just physical pleasure - it’s an act of deep connection. Take moments to celebrate the intimacy you’ve created, whether it’s through whispered words of affirmation, gentle cuddles, or simply basking in the afterglow together. By approaching this journey with openness and gratitude, you’ll transform your shared experiences into cherished memories.

Incorporating Lali in your relationship is an act of empowerment and mutual care, reminding both of you that pleasure is a journey best explored without limits or judgment. 

Interested in delving deeper into the art of erotic play with your partner? Tell us more in the comments!